"A friend loves at all times"
So, you have a friend who is terminal or dying (same thing really, one’s just longer) what do you say?
You don't need to have any answers.
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If you're not terminal or dying of the same thing, with the same surrounding circumstances, don't say "I understand" because, frankly, you don't.
You can say you’re sorry; so is your friend.
You don't have to be superhuman. You can cry (if you have to).
Be yourself. Be the same friend you've always been.
Talk about the same nonsense you've always talked about. Talk about yourself if that's all you can think of.
Your friend just needs you to be a friend.
Your friend needs things to be as normal as possible.
I promise, no matter how boring you are, your friend will never think “I’d rather be dead than to hear this.”
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If you are sick, dying, or close to someone who is sick or dying. Be prepared to lose touch with most of your friends because they are uncomfortable, scared, or don't know what to say.
"Dying is lonely, and I'm not even dead yet!" -Michael Filer
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Whatever you say, don't tell your friend or their family "this will only make you stronger", that's just stupid! That's what you say to someone during a grueling workout.
Love, those you love, well.
"Now when Job’s three friends heard of all this evil that had come upon him, they came each from his own place, Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite, and Zophar the Naamathite. They made an appointment together to come to show him sympathy and comfort him."
The greatest thing you can do for your friend is be there for him and be on your knees in prayer for him! Being a good friend means setting your own comfort aside and doing what is best for your friend...what you would want done for you.